Friday, December 17, 2010

In my opinion...

Now, I don't have any kids. But this is a topic that I have heard about atleast 2 times this week. And it got me thinking...

When someone in the family has a baby it's great! The family is growing, and admit it, having children around helps keep us all young and active, which is why I envy those that are aunts and uncles! I want to be one so badly. But, it really rubs me the wrong way when someone has a child and automatically expects for others to watch their kids, whenever they want them to. o.O It's like, okay, ask me and I'll say yes or no, or heck, I'll even volunteer here and there. But, don't have hissy fits, and curse everyone because they cannot watch your child all of the time.

The same goes to grandparents. They raised you. They might feel like they're done raising kids. So don't take it personal if they don't always want Junior around. You're the parent. My mother tells me that she'd want to watch my kids for me someday, and support me as much as she can, but if theres a day that she'd be like 'I cant." I'll have no choice but to say "I understand mami, thanks!" and resort to Plan B, C, and D.

My cousin does this. And families talk, so it gets brought up. She'd just call you last minute and take the baby over there for the entire weekend and party it up. And I read a FB update of a girl throwing her family under the bus for not watching her child for her while she worked. And, it was a topic of discussion on a TV show.

That is all. What is your take on this?
* con mucho amor, c i n d y.

6 comments:

LaLa said...

As a mommy, not the kind you mentioned here but as a mom I can tell you one thing, your baby, your responsibility, I don't think I started going out again till my child was almost 2 and even then and now I NEVER COUNT ON ANYONE to watch or take care of him, but that's part of my personality too, I'm super and sometimes overly proud and independent.. So as soon as I went back to work, he went to daycare, and when I wanted to go out (which was rare) I would PAY someone or I would have plp over my house where my son could be with ME! I've passed on MANY outings just because I realize, I'm a mom now and guess what BABY COMES FIRST.. I guess just some plp get it while others dont, it can be frustrating but mos def NOT something you take out on others, they were NOT IN BED WITH YOU making the baby.. sorry!!

elizabeth said...

i have to completely agree with Lala. i really think some mothers out there are too immature to have kids. i became a mom almost 3 years ago, and i'm not going to lie to you, i can count with one hand the times i've went out. maybe it's me but i cannot see myself going out without my bee. i feel like the club scene and the being all night out with friends drinking isn't me anymore. maybe because i already went through that stage but you do make a valid point! my mother won't watch bee unless it's for school or work.

Hell Notes for Beauty™ said...

Girl you hit it in the nail today! That is why I have not had kids yet. The partying and all about me phase has not yet faded.

This is where my sister and I differ. I just find that mothers especially our age need time for themselves but dam, not ALL the time.

Nubiasnonsense said...

Omg I know people like this it's nuts. Your kid, your responsibility. You should only take care of it out of the kindness of your heart you shouldn't feel forced

xoxo Kellz* said...

wtf ugh i dislike ppl like dat...good post

Curves ahead makeup said...

O think all you said was right I don't have children but I could see how this can be bad situation and especially if she leaves the weekend oh my sounds like someone wasn't ready to be a mom kids are so much responsibility it's crazy I don't have children so I see the bigger picture, great read

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